I was cleaning up my email last night and I have found and re read some emails that made me sad again. Those were the emails from my “hacker”. It has been quite a while now and I am just glad it has stopped.
While reading the emails I still can’t believe that it has happened. I am still hurt. I have already forgiven that person but I still cannot forget what has been done. How can you forget something that has caused you so much pain? That has caused you trouble? I no more hold grudges against that person. And I have accepted the fact that we can never be friends again – well, maybe someday. I guess I can forgive but still cannot forget.
Can you really forgive and forget?
I don't know that you can forget, but just be careful that your saying you haven't forgotten isn't still a bit of unforgiveness. I didn't think I could ever "forget" what my dad had done to my mom and my brothers and myself until one day our Father in heaven gave me a vision of my dad in eternal damnation and Hell. I realized that I had done just as much to deserve Hell as my dad had done and that Jesus death on the cross offered me the forgiveness and salvation that I did not deserve and therefore my dad also needed that same salvation. When I realized that in God's eyes I looked the same as my dad, I was able to forgive. I was still hurt, but I realized that only Jesus could love me the way I needed and that I could never expect my dad or anyone else to live up to that. I still remember the hurt, but I honestly can say that I realize my dad was just a sinner like me and that what he did was merely out of his sinful nature. I am happy to say that because Jesus healed my heart and broken mind, I was able to begin showing love toward my dad despite his lack of showing it toward me and after 30 years, he was saved this year. He is now a different man and we go to lunch together, talk about the Lord, and have the relationship I thought was never possible.
ReplyDeleteI'll be praying for you and I hope that Jesus will heal you wound. Some hurts take lots and lots of time with our Lord (not neccesarily length of time just lots of time in His presence, His word, and on your knees crying to Him for His comfort.)
God bless you dear sister...we have all struggled with this one.
time heals wounds.
ReplyDeletethere are situations that people offended or betrayed me and it hurts really bad.
i have forgiven them but i have not forgotten what they did so i don't trust them.
it's easy to forgive but it's difficult to forget.
@ jcdisciple
ReplyDeleteI used to hate my dad too but I after realizing that we all are sinners to the eyes of God but we were loved unconditionally I have come to accept him and loved him with all of my heart.
I have already forgiven that person and I am sure of that. I just can't forget what has been done to me and the hurt that it has caused me, but I have already forgiven him.
@ simplyjacy
ReplyDeleteyou're right. but when I say i have not forgotten what has been done that does not mean I am still mad at the person.
truth is we can only forget things if we have amnesia or something...:)